grown up goals: april

So I've actually already accomplished a bunch of grown up goals this month. I used my refund check to pay off my credit cards (!!!), replace my treadless tire, and renew my car's registration (that was due back in September). The credit cards have been an awful weight on my shoulders for quite some time now, so I am really happy to be free from the shackles of Gap and American Eagle.

Because I have some big goals coming up for the next few months, I'm going to take April a little easy and focus on my emotional wealth. The key to staying strong and being able to help others and taking care of yourself and being aware of your own needs. There are a few areas of my emotional wealth that need a little extra attention, so I'm going to focus on that for April.

Media Boundaries // What does that even mean, right? Basically, I need to start saying no to certain forms and topics in media for my own wellness and sanity. One of my favorite people on the planet asked me to join a book club to read the memoir Girls Like Us: Fighting in a World Where Girls Are Not For Sale. I felt really embarrassed to decline, but I also knew that I couldn't handle hearing about any more badness toward girls in the world right now. I absolutely know that the book is a great read and  I look forward to snuggling up with it for some deep reading at a later time, but I'm too engaged right now to take on another heavy topic. In other cases, I only let myself read two articles about Steubenville. I will only discuss Girls with people who recognize the healthy and unhealthy relationship dynamics. I don't need to spend every second my free time educating or being educated. Sometimes I just want to enjoy the things around me. So this month I will watch Friday until I can't remember any other songs and I won't go see Spring Breakers.

Meditation // I've resisted meditation for a long time because I am convinced that it's a gateway drug to yoga (and I refuse to do yoga//long story). However, I think I need to step up my mental health game from simply getting more sleep and laying around my apartment in my pjs when I'm feeling overwhelmed. I need to commit to relaxed and clear thinking. Do you have any tips for me to learn to meditate? I've heard there are some good videos on YouTube for getting started and I really like those binaural beats. I'll take any advice anyone has on this one because I'm pretty clueless when it comes to clearing my head.

What are you focusing on or planning to achieve this month?


  1. These are fantastic goals and it sounds like you're already off to a great start :)
    I am definitely planning on continuing to be consistent in my freelance work and maintaining the fabulous balance I have been keeping between work and social!

  2. This month I'm working on being happier. That sounds weird, but I have an emotional personality that causes me to swing from really happy to pretty down pretty quickly. I have a lot to be happy about, and I'm generally in a good place in my life. Lately I've found myself getting stressed and allowing that stress to compound so that I get fed up with stupid nonsense that I don't want to deal with and I find myself just not liking people, just genuinely not wanting to be around most people because there are things about them or how they behave that annoy me and it's just going to make it worse. But then I realize how ridiculous I'm being and how of course people are annoying but they're also wonderful and I need to lighten up an manage my stress and my doubts and not allow my unhappiness with things like my body which just keeps magically gaining weight and my insecurities and worries about my thesis and teaching and other things cloud over all of the things that are so good and make me so happy, like the fact that I'm in a funded MFA program and have a wonderful boyfriend and it's finally warm and sunny. It's so easy to let one bad thing make you forget about five good things and that's something I'm working to change this month. Looking on the bright side, taking things as they come, looking for ways to be happier and healthier and more productive.

  3. Hey girl! Love the new look of your blog btw. I think for me meditation doesn't mean sitting in silence while you clear your mind. I like to go hiking and disconnect from all social media for a little while. I get completely overwhelmed with the pressures of life and the demands of others that I just turn off my phone and take a walk. Matt and I have made a deal that when we get home from work we turn off our phones and pay attention to eachother. We try to make dinner together and instead of sitting infront of the Tv we make it a point to sit at the dinner table. It's working out pretty well. There are other things (about me) that I really want to work on. It's an on going process really...

  4. I think it takes a lot of time and patience to figure out boundaries. They're hard to master (if people really ever do) but they're definitely necessary to a happy life.
    Also-I'm lovin' the new blog look! I was thinking about moving my header into my side bar and bringing my blog posts up to the top like you did and I LOVE the way yours looks! It'a making me want to go figure it out now!

  5. I think the key to meditation and relaxing is a quiet place with music you love. My favorite thing to do to relax is listen to Jack Johnson outside somewhere like a park or back yard.

    Oh gosh, I have so many goals and things planned for this month... They're all centered around our recent move across the country to Denver, CO... My goals include rocking a few interviews I have scheduled, and finding (and furnishing) an apartment.

    Get those goals, girl!


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