After reading about the importance of women being explicitly proud of their accomplishments on both NeonNotebook and the NY Mag, I decided to do a little self-promotion of my own. Thinking about what I'm proud of is such an interesting task: I want to praise myself for things I know I've done well, but I always feel there's a risk that I'll come off sounding conceited. Or worse, what if I'm proud of something that someone else doesn't think is worthy of praise? These are doubts that can be so natural to us as women, and are often biggest obstacle holding us back from accepting greatness. This post is about putting on blinders to the critics and celebrating my accomplishments.

I am proud of my advocacy. Usually when someone has a job, it teaches them skills they can use in future jobs, but not necessarily life. One of the greatest things I've learned in my position as an advocate is the power of validating. I love having the ability to make someone feel heard, and, even more, to empower them to continue to use their voice. All by validating their feelings. I never feel better about myself than when I'm providing awesome advocacy, and I think that's pretty cool. I'm proud of knowing my purpose.

I am proud of my blog. A lot of people seem to think that blogging isn't a valid form of writing. I think those people are wrong. every day, I get to write whatever i want in this space that I've created--and people read it. Exclusively, those are both really great things that I'm proud of, but having crafted something that other people care about (even just enough to click through to) makes me feel so wonderful. I love sharing stories, thoughts, outfits, and more, so single-handedly building a corner of the internet where I can do that whenever I want is a major accomplishment in my life that I'm really proud of.

I am proud of my relationship with Dago. Our relationship is an incredible partnership. We're costars in our often hilarious, sometimes deep, and always insanely-loving lives. I feel perfectly equal to him in the relationship, and yet have so much admiration for him as a person. Our communication skills are so smooth we don't even realize we're "working through" something, and we both strive to hear each other's voices over our own. I'm so excited about our 2+ years together and I love taking on each new day, making plans for the future, and enjoying the tiniest moments with him. I'm so proud of the healthy, happy, and whole relationship we've built.

What are you proud of? Do you ever struggle to identify or announce these accomplishments?


  1. Oh, I love this post so much! I loved reading about the things you are proud of. I think I can sell myself a bit short sometimes, but I'm definitely proud of myself for the work I do on my blog, for being able to stand up for what I believe in, and for the fact that I love my body even though as a woman, I'm basically conditioned and pressured not to.

    Seriously, I love your blog so much, and posts like this are a big part of why!

    Ladyface Blog

  2. I'm proud to be your friend! Love this post bb, I hear so many women talk down about themselves when I am at work and it's sooo important to praise yourself and check in on your milestones.


  3. Girl, you are so inspiring. I need to be more like you.
    And you and Dago, make me so happy.
    i mean i don't know you guys, but it just makes me happy.


  4. i love this. there needs to be more of this in the world!

  5. This is such a great post! People should really take more time to reflect on their accomplishments. We live in such a fast-paced society where you just check things off the list and move on to the next thing without every really stopping and thinking, hey, I did that! These are all wonderful things to be proud of.


  6. Love this chica. You're part about Dago is awesome. Healthy relationships are the bestest, and it is pretty funny how you find yourselves working something out without realizing it sometimes! Your blog is always a source of inspiration for me, always always.


  7. This is so beautiful and inspiring. I think being proud can be tricky sometimes, but you've done an elegant job of expressing these moments. And the part on you and Dago is so sweet. I'm with Kristina though, your blog is always inspiring.


  8. Awesome post, Nicole! You're always so inspiring when you bring the girl talk out - love it! I agree with Melissa that being proud is sometimes tricky, because being a humble person seems to be so rare, but it's always good to also realize that we work hard for and on some things and we do have a right to be proud of what we've accomplished. This is especially important for women, I feel like we're always pushed aside when it comes to saying what we're allowed to be proud of for ourselves.



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