4 // wish i were wearing


This is an outfit that I would have been all about during my freshman year of college, but probably wouldn't have worn in public since then. There was an incident just before the end of my first semester that changed all of that, that I don't think I've ever mentioned here before. Which is weird, because it's the catalyst that got me back into fashion and style.

A week or so before winter break, one of my guy friends from a neighboring dorm asked me to go to dinner later in the week with him and another one of our friends. It seemed totally casual, so I said sure and never really gave it much thought. The day of our planned outing, the other friend texted me and told me to wear something nice. Um, as if I wouldn't? But really, I had planned on wearing jeans, a v-neck, a zip-up hoodie and my beloved purple Converse. So I swapped the Cons for a pair of flats and the hoodie for a blazer. That was nicer, right?

Turns out, this "outing" is actually a double date to P.F. Chang's. (Do they have these everywhere? It's a really fancy Asian food restaurant. Like..people go to their prom dinners there.) Anyway, I was totally underdressed. (Also, it turned out that I was only invited as to make things less awkward for our other friend who was trying to make some moves on a lady, and not intended to be a date for me, but that's a different story.) 

In the cafeteria the next day, I'm sitting with the bros and we're talking about the evening. I say something about feeling embarrassed that I was so underdressed, and one of the guys makes a comment about how I "always dress and walk like such a dude, and maybe I should put in more effort."

This might be a good time to say that, with the exception of this story, this human is actually just a dingle-berry to my existence and bears no importance on any other part of my life. Truth be told, he's pretty much everything I stand against.

Anyway, I came back the next semester swinging. I went out and bought dresses, printed and colored tights, little skirts with pockets, and got bangs. I retired my Converse and dressed up for class every day for the rest of my college career.

Since that incident, I've been reluctant to wear anything that might come off as masculine, sloppy, sporty, or even underdressed. I pride myself on having a strong sense of style and always putting in the effort to have a look, rather than just clothes on my body. I may have had a shitty catalyst, but I took control of my style and haven't look back.

Lately, I've been considering buying a pair of white Converse, mostly because they're a blogger staple. Dressing up every day, especially at an office where gym clothes are perfectly acceptable, can become tedious and tiresome. When it's extra cold outside, like it's been this week, or I'm just not feeling well, I want to be able to throw on some sweat pants and call it "dressed." I see bloggers wearing sweats and Cons and I never think "wow, she really didn't put in the effort." I think they look cute, and I envy their ability to dress down and still look so fly. Maybe I just need to find the right pair, and the right accessories, to make it feel me.

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6 comments

  1. You would look adorable in this and I so so so love that parka! That guy who told you that is the worst! I love your style, and I think something like this fits in great with all the lovely pieces you already wear. Rock it, lady!

    -Becca
    Ladyface Blog

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  2. I love this outfit and how great the colors work together. Thanks for this, out shopping for something like this i go.

    xo. Kailagh

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  3. Lady- you do you. You want to dress up? You dress the hell out of the fancy closet of yours. You want to dress down? You get comfy. My general rule is no pajamas in public (unless for a very good reason) and I only do sweatpants if I'm cold and heading to the gym. I don't really have a reason for this rule besides the fact that my mom made me do it as a kid and I've since realized that jeans are easy to put on right before I leave the house.

    I'm onto my 3rd? 4th? pair of black converse since hs and I still wear them as I see fit. I'd love to add in a white pair for the summer months! And gym clothes? Ohhh I'll go grocery shopping before or after hitting the gym in my workout clothes if it works in my schedule. Sometimes your clothes just need to allow you to be comfortable. I hope you continue to explore how comfort can meet your style in your posts!


    *sorry for the book! <3

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  4. My first reaction was oh no, shame should not be the thing that gets you doing something, but then I stopped and thought that sometimes someone has to give you that little kick when you are in a slump, and sometimes the person to do that isn't the greatest person you know, because those people are too polite and supportive to give you that kick. I kind of feel the same way about dressing up. What I wear every day is dressing up for a lot of people, so that weirdly causes me a lot of stress in situations where I want to look really polished or fancy because I feel like I have to up my game even more. And then when I just want to wear something comfy and slouchy, I feel like it looks 5x worse than it does on other people because people know what I usually look like. I think you just have to find comfortable, casual clothes that you look good and feel good in, and you ultimately have to just wear what you want. A well-fitting stripey shirt is one of my favorite clothing items of all time, and I think this outfit looks totally city chic!

    -Jen
    yourstrulyjen.com

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  5. Duuuuude, that guy SUCKS. I hate how sometimes we let crappy comments from people who don't even matter impact us so much! It's always those weird little criticisms that stick with us. I had a similar thing happen to me in high school and now that it's been what, almost 10 years? I am STILL holding onto it. Ugh. For what it's worth, I think this outfit is super cute and wouldn't look slobby or masculine at all on you. And even if it did, who cares? :)

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  6. Ouch! Well out of a rude remark came something awesome right? I was teased a LOT in middle school because I used to wear straight leg jeans when flares were in and apparently wore my pants too high according to one jerk. BUT LOOK AT ME NOW SUCKA. Haha. I wouldn't change a thing about you mama ;)

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