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I'm starting a new blog series! Since many of my followers stick around for my posts on grown up goals and other becoming-an-adult type posts, I wanted to bring style into that side of my blog to help readers get their closets in grown up shape. Getting ready for interviews, building a wardrobe for office life, and knowing how to put all the pieces together can be challenges for a lot of people, so I'll be sharing styling tips to help make it a little easier.


Recently, I was helping a friend figure out what to wear to her big interview via text. I would mention an article of clothing, and she would type out what pieces she had in that department. As she listed her pencil skirts, she mentioned a "weird purpleish one," and I couldn't help but think, "Why do you have that, much less tell me about it when getting ready for an interview?"

I started collecting pencil skirts from thrift stores just before graduating from college. They didn't necessarily fit perfectly, but they were cost effective and they served a purpose, right? Wrong. Every time I got ready for an interview, I would get a terrible feeling in my stomach that I'd have to wear one of these ill-fitting skirts. The pockets stuck out, the fabric wrinkled along my thighs, it sat up too high or too low on my waist--they just didn't make me feel awesome. I would see a pencil skirt that I loved that was on sale from a retailer like Loft or J.Crew Factory and think "well, I already own a skirt that's kinda like this...so I guess I don't need another." So finally, I got rid of them.

We all have those items in our closet. Maybe we thrifted them, or impulse purchased at Target or Forever 21, or ordered it online and just never sent it back. They don't quite fit right, and they certainly don't make us feel awesome. It occurs to me that a lot of people don't know this, but clothes should make you feel awesome! 

If it makes you feel bad about your body, get rid of it. Not only is it just sitting in the back of your closet, haunting you, but it's taking up space that you could fill with something you really love. You deserve to fill your closet, and life, with things you really love!

12 comments

  1. Good call! I've done so many closet clean outs that have purged these sorts of items. I finally convinced myself that if I didn't love something or if that something had any sort of fit issues, I'm straight up not allowed to buy it. Even if it's 3 bucks!

    -Becca
    Ladyface Blog

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  2. Absolutely LOVE this post! I started doing this 1/2 years ago when I finally figured out that clothes don't work on every body type and that it's ok. You need to embrace your shape and find what FITS! Ill-fitting clothes are the worst feeling in the world. I'm also switching my mindset to a quality over quantity. I don't mind having less clothes in my closet if they are all high-quality and fit great! :D Have you heard of Bib+Tuck site? If you do a closet purge, may be good to check out! :D
    xx
    Lauren M
    Make it a Double

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  3. 100% true! I'm in the middle of rebuilding my closer and I caught myself doing a major no-no this winter. I asked for nice clothes for x-mas- received some very kind gifts- and then added them to my bad closet. Whyyyyy am I adding things without taking things away!?

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  4. Great series idea! Regularly cleaning out my closet and then re-visiting set-aside items occasionally is something I've been working on a lot in the last year or so. Especially with a changing body shape, as you gain or lose weight, it's really rough if you don't know what currently fits or looks good on you, and a lot of times if you don't know, you just won't wear it rather than cry in the morning because x used to be your favorite thing to wear and now it won't button up. Knowing that everything that is hanging in your closet is a good option makes getting dressed in the morning so much faster, easier, and less traumatizing.

    -Jen
    yourstrulyjen.com

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  5. This is a great series idea! And this is the perfect post to start it off with - wearing clothes that fit right and aren't "weird" is always the best way to go and while it seems like an easy thing to remember, there are always people who are not following this simple concept. I'm excited to see what you have in store for this series!

    -Chelsea
    chelsandthecity.blogspot.com

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  6. I've gotten so much better at this lately! I've pretty much been purging my closet every time I see something that I know won't make me smile or feel completely like myself when I wear it. Can't wait to read more of this series!

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  7. Yes!! Why do we insist on hanging on to things we don't feel good in? I've been slowly removing these items from my closet over the last few months. I'm also learning to splurge on items that look great and give me confidence; it's worth it!

    http://livingwhatyoulove.com

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  8. Love it! It's soo hard to get rid of things that you desperately want to fit just a little bit differently.. .but it's wonderful advice to just get rid of it. I at least started putting mine away... so that it's not cluttering up my closet and making me tempted to wear it! Giving it away/selling it is a great next step.. .must. be. brave. :) -Alexandra

    Simply Alexandra: My Favorite Things

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  9. Totally agree!!! One of my clothing philosophies too. Thanks for putting this out there.

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  10. Geez, this is the kind of thing I needed to read right now. I have such a bad habit of buying things just because they are cheap. But like you said, when I put those items on it doesn't matter how cheap they were-I just feel yucky in them! I need to stop wasting money on these things and feeling bad about myself for no reason. Thanks for the reminder!
    Katie

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  11. right after christmas, i went bloody murder on my closet. i got rid of clothes i hadn't worn in forever, clothes that i wore but hated, clothes that were too big/too small/too "eh". it was so liberating! i have been shopping a few times since, and i am being oh so picky about what i purchase. my closet is smaller but now i can actually see what i have, and it's more fun to put pieces together. excited for this series!

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  12. Great post, Nicole. You are completely right - I have had to get rid of a lot of "closet frogs" to get my "closet princes," haha! It's like that with jeans and button ups, especially, but I've been starting to really examine other things that, while they might technically "fit," they're just not flattering on me. It has really helped me curb my impulse spending and be much more selective in which pieces join my closet! I love your advice here - keep it coming, dear!

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